The Listening Touch


Oh, the miraculous energy that flows between two people who care enough to get beyond surfaces and games, who are willing to take the risks of being totally open, of listening, of responding with the whole heart. How much we can do for each other.” - Alex Noble

"We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that something deep inside us is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of trust, sacred to our touch."  -
e.e. cummings

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances. If there is any reaction, both are transformed.- Carl Jung

“The ear is the road to the heart.” - Voltaire

“The first duty of love is to listen.” - Paul Tillich (theologian and philosopher)

“The only difference between a flower and a weed is judgement.” - Anon

“What people really need is a good listening to.” - Mary Lou Casey

“Sometimes it is a great joy just to listen to someone we love talking.” - Vincent McNabb (scholar, priest and author)

“.. to a poet, the human community is like the community of birds to a bird, singing to each other. Love is one of the reasons we are singing to one another, love of language itself, love of sound, love of singing itself, and love of the other birds.” - Sharon Olds

Being heard is so important. It puts you in touch with your own power. Listening to someone, really hearing, is such a wonderful gift."  - Sandy Newman (President of Life Enhancement Coaches in Monroe, NJ)

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships. I wrote that.” - Henry Winkler (Nice!) :)

“If the person you are talking to doesn’t appear to be listening, be patient. It may simply be that he has a small piece of fluff in his ear.” - Winnie the Pooh (AA Milne)

“I remember sitting next to a girl, a woman, on a flight a few years ago. She'd had a couple of drinks and she said, 'Can I tell you something?' I said, 'Sure.' She said, 'I can't make out properly unless I'm listening to your music'.” (He smiles.) “So that's been my contribution.” - Burt Bacharach

“Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery.” - Dr. Joyce Brothers

“One of the surest evidences of friendship that one individual can display to another is telling him gently of a fault. If any other can excel it, it is listening to such a disclosure with gratitude, and amending the error.” - Edward Bulwer-Lytton (dramatist, author, & politician)

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” - Leo Buscaglia

“We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women - whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.” - Barbara Deming


“Life dies inside a person when there are no others willing to be-friend him. He thus gets filled with emptiness and a non-existent sense of self-worth.” - Mark R.J. Lavoie

“Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?” - Abraham Lincoln  

“Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.” - Karl A. Menninger (psychologist)

“Oh, the miraculous energy that flows between two people who care enough to get beyond surfaces and games, who are willing to take the risks of being totally open, of listening, of responding with the whole heart. How much we can do for each other.” - Alex Noble

“Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force.  When we really listen to people there is an alternating current, and this recharges us so that we never get tired of each other.  We are constantly being re-created.” - Brenda Ueland

“Listening moves us closer, it helps us become more whole, more healthy, more holy. Not listening creates fragmentation, and fragmentation is the root of all suffering.” - Margaret J. Wheatley

“There are many benefits to this process of listening. The first is that good listeners are created as people feel listened to. Listening is a reciprocal process - we become more attentive to others if they have attended to us.” - Margaret J. Wheatley

“Maybe it was a cry for help. But no one was listening.”  - Jennifer Wilbanks (famously known as “the runaway bride”)

“Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self confidence.” - Robert Frost

''It was a pleasure and a beauty listening to him... He had a vocabulary that was in the stratosphere. But if you paid attention, you'd understand him.'' - Franklin Kreutzer (attorney; from a memorial tribute to Rabbi Norman N. Shapiro)
“Many attempts to communicate are nullified by saying too much.” - Robert Greenleaf       

"Lenin could listen so intently that he exhausted the speaker.” - Isaiah Berlin

"Being listened to is so close to being loved that most people cannot tell the difference.” - David Oxbury Augsberg

"I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word."   - Martin Luther King, Jr.

"All evidence of truth comes from the senses."    - Nietzsche

"He was interesting because he was interested."        - Gore Vidal on Norman Mailer
"Seek first to understand, then to be understood."   - Stephen Covey

"Words must be weighed, not counted."  - Polish Proverb

“No one wanted to hear the truth.”  - Shirley Sherrod

“More than what we say or do, the way we are expresses what we think it means to be alive. So the articulate parent is less a telling than a listening individual.” - Polly Berrien Berends

“Someone feeling wronged is like someone feeling thirsty. Don’t tell them they aren’t. Sit with them and have a drink.” - Lemony Snicket


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